Something we’ve learned over the years is that children grieve the loss of loved ones in their own way. We’ve also learned how important it is for them to experience how to process loss. In our strong desire to protect our children, we may inadvertently shelter them from something they truly need to comprehend.
Children do understand that a person they loved deeply may no longer be present and a part of their daily lives. They feel that loss immediately. They’re also very resilient and want to be part of the comfort process for others they love who have experienced the same loss. According to Becky Schrader, “It’s amazing how profound children are and how sensitive they are to the adults that they can see, hear and feel are experiencing sadness. Even the littlest children are sensitive to the grief of the people they love around them”. And they react. Just as one might expect. They can assure a family that things will be OK. They reteach the lessons they’ve been taught.
Becky has some advice. “While it may be uncomfortable to discuss death with children, it is important to understand that they are grieving too. Try to answer any questions accurately and honestly, at a level you believe they can understand. And don’t be afraid to simply say “I don’t know”. Try to listen and be empathetic without taking over their feelings, and be available for support as they express fears.
Knollcrest is a family funeral home. Bob and Elaine raised their children here, and we continue this tradition as a staff by sharing lunch together nearly every day. Our family dining and coffee area was designed with children in mind. We encourage families to bring items that make their children feel more comfortable. We have coloring books, crayons, games, toys, DVDs, and other child-friendly items to help occupy our little guests when they feel a need to shift their attention during the course of a service. Their presence is important; we want them to feel that they have a place here.
And if someone spills…So what.
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